Hello! I'm Jade (they/them)
My life has been a series of coming outs, from middle school gayness to gender divergence, from loving multiple partners to working in the therapeutic sex industry. This journey has shown me:
I am lovable
I can change
and I am not alone.
Growing up genderqueer without the internet, I spent pre-puberty exploring body pleasures and fantasies in wild abandon. I was blessed with parents who didn’t shame me for masturbation (as discovered at age 2, in a furniture store). I found ease in relating to other humans, and my senses were often turned on. But once puberty hit, body dysphoria and self-harm set in. My body’s topography no longer felt like mine. I began making decisions around sexuality and relationships from a disconnected place, letting self-disgust run in the background. This left me open to abusive relationships, lending my body to other people’s insecurities and pleasures. I didn’t think I had any other choice.
I will never forget the moment my realization of this dropped into my pelvis. I was at a Reframing Racism class, and suddenly the damage was clear. At puberty, I learned how to separate and control my passion for play and pleasure-centered approach. I had locked up my erotic power, and thus, couldn’t truly be in solidarity with others. Their liberation forced me to feel the pain of my own constrictions. This learning was terrifyingly refreshing, and led me to listen more intently to my ancestors (Ashkenazi Jews and Romani people). I sought out ethical and intimate practitioners to receive hands-on support to unwind the relational trauma I had endured. Things started to make more sense again.
When I was fired for “insubordination” at my non-profit job, I heard the call to learn how to support this unwinding in others. Create intimate spaces for queer and trans* folx to drop their armor and build skills for living their best erotic lives. So I enrolled in the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education and met kickass mentors, wise colleagues, and opportunities to experience this work exponentially. This is when the words erotic belonging came together. This was when my youthful aliveness found a rooted, full-bodied home.
My practice centers gender creatives, queers and folx under the LGBTQ+ rainbow, but I also work with straight, cis clients who appreciate queer magic. I also facilitate in-person workshops, dance events, and online playscapes. When I'm not working, you can find me making melt-in-your-mouth pancakes, jumping into rivers, or going to drag shows.
Certified Somatic Sex Educator & Sexological Bodyworker from the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education
The Fascial Feel: Trauma-Informed Myofascial Release with Ailsa Keppie
Neurobiology, Attachment and Secure Relationships with Dr. Diane Poole Heller
Trauma Essentials for Spiritual Practitioners with Ori Aguila
Emotions in Motion: Storytelling Through Movement Part 1 and 2 with Siddhi Tapkir
Mental, Physical and Spiritual Self-Defense with Harmony Lee
Can You Hear Me? workshop for white queer folx Holistic Resistance
Mortal Course with Alua Arthur and Caitlyn Doughty
Reframing Racism Intensive with the Center for Equity and Inclusion
Community Development Undergraduate Degree at Portland State University
Interview on Sex Ed for the Modern Bed:
Jade has the qualities that I need most from a practitioner to feel safe with. They are super calm, grounded, and their attunement was really perfect for my needs; be it their body position, eye contact, intake, listening and mirroring skills. It felt spacious. Because I felt held and safe, I had an "ah-ha" moment; it was to see that sometimes, I can be shy still to ask for exactly what I want especially in my intimate sex life. As if part of me is afraid to be either too dirty, too vanilla or too demanding! It was a good thing to see. I felt more alive and calmer in my body afterwards.